After All

.....After All..... 

How Not To Be A Jerk?

“Don’t assume.”

That’s often the advice given to women that when a man is nice to her, it doesn’t mean he’s into her. TRUE. But, I do want to point out that a woman will likely end up getting confused when a nice young man pops into her life, or someone known to her starts doing one or more of the following: communicating with her daily whether through text/call/chat, asking her to hang out alone, telling her she’s missed, constantly complimenting her, surprising her, etc. I’m not saying don’t be a gentleman, or that women shouldn’t use wisdom in relating with men (that’s a whole other issue). In fact, the examples I have given may even be a bit extreme. All I’m saying is that, guys, your actions, touch, especially your words and attention, speak VOLUMES to women! A young lady out there might already be struggling not to fall for you because she “can’t assume,” even though she’s been trying her best to be wise in guarding her heart!

The bible says to treat “…women as sisters, in ALL purity” (1 Timothy 5:2)! ALL!! That includes emotional purity, which is one of the hardest issues that most women struggle with! Again, women should at all cost do their part in guarding their emotional purity. However, men, you have a big part in helping your sisters out. By how? By treating them as sisters, as true princesses, as the brides of Christ! Just like you, we are chosen, royal, and holy, destined to proclaim the praises of Him Who has called us out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9).

So boys, man up!

If you’re into her, don’t flirt with her; pursue her. You are called to lead and the best way to start is being persistent in prayer. Have a plan. Ask the tough questions to yourself first before doing anything. Be wise in your words and in your actions. Be truthful with her. Don’t even allow her to get confused by doing special things to and with her without telling her how you feel. Be consistent and let the Lord guide you in the pursuit.

If you like her but aren’t ready to be in a relationship that will potentially lead to marriage, then stop right there. Don’t you start building anything special with this girl thinking you’ll commit when you’re ready. Be a genuine friend and brother and let the Lord map out the course of this genuine friendship.

If you don’t like her, but find yourself liking the benefits this no commitment thing is giving you, please stop. Go get the emotional fulfillment from God and not from this poor girl. And please, don’t pull the “don’t assume” card on her! Don’t be a jerk!


Source: How Not To Be A Jerk

Random Thoughts: Love and Relationship This Christmas

I am not an expert on relationship and not a guru on anything but lately I am seeing trends of love just because its almost Christmas. I have to admit I do feel lonely knowing this Christmas after almost 6 years of being in a relationship would be celebrating it "single" but not alone. I know for one my family is there and friends to share it too. If there is one thing I look forward this Christmas would be not the presents but the relationship with people close to my heart and whether with gifts or not just being here with me "On Christmas day" is enough. Is not the "gift" perse but the intentions and sentiments behind it. This is just really random thoughts and I'm not really making any point right now... Just merely sharing what I really had to say....



I leave you with my all time favorite Christmas Song... "Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas" sang by Luther Vandross truly the best version always...







Have yourself a Merry Little Christmas.... ^_^

I won't give up on US

I love this song... ^_^

Brokenness

Trusted... but fooled...
Loved... but hated...
Cried... but laughed at....

I have fallen on my knees many times... but God had always carried me back up.....

Ray's Cool Songs

I was running my usual day in the office, and during idle moments. I turn to Tumblr for songs to listen to. And I found Lindsey Ray's songs and I fell in love with it instantly, something with the beat and the lyrics altogether creates the bestest song ever. ^_^




Here's the list of some of her songs which I like best:
Better Off
Float Away
Believe in love  - My personal favorite but you have to scroll down to listen to this, it can't be found anywhere. I gotta buy her CD.
You Make Me Happy - Another favorite.. ^_^





....... It-Made-My-Day-Extra-Happy........ ^_^

The Tourist and Venice

Courtesy of Google

After watching "The Tourist" for almost nth time now and almost everyday. The more I long to stroll the city of Venice on a gondola. What I like about the story of Elise (Angelina Jolie)  and Alexander Pierce (Johnny Depp) is their unwavering love for each other. Although their love story is bounded by danger, which is not ideal but the fact wherein Alexander had to undergo surgery went to Venice for Elise in a totally different person alias "Frank Tupelo"  but Elise still fell in love with him unknowingly it was the same person. Amazing! isn't it? reminds me of the movie "You Got Mail" it has the same feel but the "The Tourist" is more exciting to watch. For women who enjoy watching love story and wants to bring their husband or boyfriend along this is something "they" would enjoy watching too.


For almost a week now of hanging out in Coffee Bean Tea and Leaf located at Venice Piazza, Mckinley Hill. I have been dreaming of the "Venice" the one which they called "The City of Water". I have found a real cool site to read more of the beautiful city of Venice.  Below would be some of the pictures I collected over the internet.

Courtesy of Google

Listen to this awesome song by Katie Melua, Soundtrack from the movie "The Tourist"

My-so-called-love-story

It's going five months now, since we finally call it "OVER".... Writing this story felt a twitch in my heart, I am trying to understand how my heart is feeling right now... You see, 11 days from now... I'm supposed to be a "wife" we had that day reserved in one of the hotels in Manila six months ago and I was so busy preparing for the big day... But if you have watched "Bride Wars" you would understand when I say "preparing for a wedding can either break or make a couple, if they survived they are meant to be together" that's more like our story. You know, I can still feel jitters not because of the excitement but somehow I feel a scar starts to bleed again. Its never easy to forget almost six years of building dreams, future plans, and adjusting each others needs to meet "our needs". It was altogether a piece of heaven and the opposite, good and bad memories, beauty and not so beast... hehehe But nevertheless, I have forgiven him and myself. If I had to see him now, I would smile and say "hi". You see, I never regret we met and it happened because I believe it was all part of a plan "God's plan".


The Bible says:


"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

~ Jeremiah 29:11


..... Whenever worries and sadness cross my heart in a bliss, I would remind myself of these words. Pray and thank God for His words of encouragement. You know, I don't even remember what started our fights and how or when did it all started. But a gap swell so huge we couldn't keep up with the space. But God is good, He showed how love should be. "Unconditional" just like our God, He knows the plans He made, He knows the beginning and the end. And he wants us to obey, wait patiently and trust Him fully because He has prepared something greater.

"You continue to get your heart broken 

because you are holding the pen of your life 

and trying to write your own story. 

I am the "author of true love. 

I am the creator of romance. 

I know your heart's every desire. 

I want to script a beautiful tale just for you, 

but first you must give the pen to Me. 

You must let Me become the center of your existence. 

You must let Me have total control of your love life, 

and every other area of your life as well" 

~ When God Writes Your Love Story~

Eric and Leslie Ludy

.... On this blog, its more of an ordinary story of my life. People sometimes does not really care about, but to some might be a useful tool to get information. But to me, this is where I share pieces of my everyday life. I never intended to be a writer but if God calls me to do it... I will do it for Him... 

Sharing you the music I keep on my background while writing this story, "Payphone" I can somehow relate to the lyrics of the song. 

How to Deal With Freenemies

Would you even know if you had frenemies? They're the people in your life who purport to be a friend but do some oddly enemy-like things to you on more than an occasional basis, and in a way that seems pretty predetermined to unsettle you. Spotting them and dealing with them is vital to preserve your own sanity and to know when to ditch the friend who pushes things just a bit too far.


1. Spot the frenemy in your life. Before you can deal with a frenemy, you need to know you're friends with one. Some indicators might include:

*They are never able to enjoy your good fortune. If something good happens to you, their bottom lip curls into a sneer and they just have to say something derogatory, undermining and barbed.

*They're a master at the art of backhanded compliments, those compliments which sound okay on the surface but actually can be taken another way to mean something less than flattering (for example, they may say something like, "I like it when you wash your hair, that's when it's pretty," because this is suggesting that you are ugly without your hair washed.) And they seem to use this "art" on you a lot.

*They gossip about you. When it gets back to you and you raise it with them, they deny knowing anything about it or lie through their teeth and say that someone misinterpreted what they meant.


2. Listen to your own instincts. How does being with this person leave you feeling? Are you uplifted in their presence or do they always manage to take the wind out of your sails and leave you feeling down and unsupported? If you find that whenever you're down and miserable, they're around a lot more than when you're upbeat and in control, this is an indicator that you're with a person who soaks up misery and sees someone down on their luck as a target for control and manipulation. Moreover, if after spending time with them, you're left feeling sapped and bad about yourself, then you're not with a good friend – good friends make you feel good about yourself. Take note of anything like the following and be wary:

*Whenever you try to improve yourself, such as by losing weight, studying harder, going for a promotion, etc., they do their best to sabotage the efforts. Indeed, they may even encourage you to do things that will harm your progress, such as badmouth the boss or eat sweets on the weekend. Frenemies tend to bring out the worst in a person because the relationship is a bad fit.

*They never have your best interests at heart and you know it. In fact, you feel that every time you want to talk about something with them that they're likely to get really argumentative, roll their eyes, make unkind remarks or simply be negative about everything you're trying to do.

*You asked this person to support you on something weeks ago but when the time comes, they have a truly lame excuse for wriggling out of the promise. And they do it time and again to you.


3. Make changes. If you're not sure whether or not this person is a frenemy, talk over your concerns with a friend you're absolutely sure about and don't feel unhappy around. This person may throw new perspective onto the situation, perspective that helps you to realize the value of your relationship with the frenemy. Obviously, be certain you're talking to someone whom you can trust and isn't likely to pass this back to the frenemy. A frenemy who suspects you're onto them through talking to other people (and thereby warning others) can be a very unpleasant person to be around.



4. Talk to the frenemy outright. Instead of skulking around and carrying this burden on your shoulders, come out and express your concerns to this person. Avoid acting vulnerable or distressed; simply stick to the facts and express how certain things that have happened make you feel.

For example:
"I felt really put down when you suggested my costume was too tight for me in front of our dance class. Did you really mean to be so unkind?"

"I consider you to be a friend. As such, it really hurt me yesterday when you said I was too ditzy and easily distracted to be a good speechwriter in our group talk. I know you think you said it in a joking and funny way but as I am a bit vague at times, it really struck me as a bizarre way to make a joke, as I felt it came at my expense."

"I feel really disappointed when you say things that say one thing but mean another, such as telling me the jeans I bought were great... for the price I paid, as if you were intimating that I had bought cheap jeans that didn't really look so nice. Why is it so hard for you to be friendly and frank with me instead of mocking all the time?"

5. Expect your frenemy to be surprised or in denial. Being forthright about your feelings is basically calling out the frenemy and forcing them to either own up to their subterfuge or deny it. It could go either way and even if they deny it, they may not stop the behavior and just keep on doing what they've been doing to hurt you. Or, they may become angry with you and refuse to discuss it, in which case you're getting a very clear indication that it's probably time to let go of this so-called friendship.

*Remember that if they blow a fuse, that you're not much into them by this stage anyway. At least the truth is out in the open and allows you to begin focusing more on other relationships in your life.


6. Be realistic about the chances of staying friends with the frenemy. While it is important to be compassionate and realize that your frenemy may have gotten into a pattern of difficult interactions with others and see themselves as clever, witty or superior, it's equally important to look after yourself. If the frenemy can only ever interact like this, you're never going to feel safe, supported or happy around them.



7. Look to thyself. Is it possible that you have some of the traits of a frenemy too? Hanging around people who use wit and words to denigrate others can soon rub off, especially if there is an attempt to be part of the popular group or the alpha. Be honest with your self-assessment and own up to yourself if you've been carrying on frenemy-like behaviors and attitude with your friends. And put a stop to it.


8. Make the break. Once you realize that you are dealing with a frenemy and you've asked for reasons but there is no likelihood of change in your frenemy's behavior and attitude, then withdraw yourself from the failed friendship. Remind yourself that it isn't a friendship you're ending but a round of toxic interactions and that both of you will be better off for being apart and for going your own ways. Above all, remain polite and nice toward them in a distant way. There is no need to rub salt into the wound.


~ Taken from How to Deal With Freenemies


......... I never thought I had freenemies but this blog really made me aware, that for some reason when I spend time with my so-called-friends I felt unhappy about myself (feelings of being old, fat, etc).  and for some reason whenever I am in misery they never fail to made me feel worst than ever. This really helped me understand those feelings and be aware of dealing with certain friends. Nevertheless, I have forgiven them and I will never stop to be their friend. But, this time I'll be much careful so that they will never hurt me again......

A True Test of Love

Lt. John Blanchard was in New York City at Grand Central Station, and he looked up at the big clock. It said five till six. His heart was racing. At exactly 6 o’clock he was going to meet a girl whom he thought he was in love with, but had never met. This is what had happened. He had been in Florida for pilot training during World War II, and while he was there he happened to go to a library and check out a book. As he flipped through the pages, he noticed that someone had made notes in the margins. Reading the insightful observations in beautiful handwriting, he said to himself, “I would love to meet whoever wrote these notes – they seem so kind, gentle and wise.”
He looked in the front of the book and saw a name, Harlyss Maynell, New York City. He decided to try to find her. With the help of a New York City phone book, he found her address and wrote her a letter. The day after he wrote her, he was shipped back overseas to fight in the war.
Surprisingly, Harlyss answered John’s letter. They soon began to correspond back and forth throughout the war. “Her letters were just like the marvelous notes she had written in that book.” John recalled. “She was so comforting and so helping.”
One time John had confessed in a letter that he had been scared to death when they flew over Germany. Harlyss had encouraged him, “All brave men are afraid at times. Next time you are afraid, just say ‘Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for Thou art with me.’”
As they continued to write, John began to realize that he was having romantic feelings toward Harlyss. He wrote, “Send me a picture,” and she replied, “No, I won’t. Relationships are not built on what people look like.”
Still, he was intrigued by her and longed to meet her in person. Finally, the day came when he was to return to the States on leave. He mentioned in one of his letter that he was coming home and would like to take her to a dinner. She had arranged to meet him in New York City’s Grand Central Station at six P.M. under the big clock. “You’ll know who I am because I’ll be wearing a red rose,” she told him.

At last the day had come. John waited nervously to finally meet the girl he thought he loved. Here is how John described his first meeting with Harlyss Maynell:
“A young woman was coming toward me, her figure long and slim. She had blonde hair that lay back in curls from her delicate ears. Her eyes were as blue as flowers. Her lips and chin had a gentle firmness, and in a pale green suit she looked like spring-time come alive!”
Excitedly, I started toward her, entirely forgetting to notice that she was not wearing a red rose. As I moved her way, she noticed me. A small provocative smile curled he lips.
“Going my way, soldier?” she asked coyly. I took another step closer to her. It was then that I saw… Harlyss Maynell with the red rose in her coat, directly behind the girl in green. My heart sank. She was a woman well past forty. She was plump. She had graying hair tucked under a worn hat. Her thick ankles were thrust into low shoes. The girl in the green suit was walking quickly away. I had to make a choice. Should I follow after the beauty who had just spoken to me? Or stay and face poor Harlyss Maynell?
I made my decision and I did not hesitate. Turning toward the woman, I smiled. Even as I began to speak, I felt choked by bitter disappointment. “You must be Miss Maynell,” I said, extending my hand. “I’m so glad you could meet me. Will you join me for a dinner?”
The older woman’s face then broadened into a smile. “I don’t know what this is all about, son,” she replied, “but you know that young woman in the green suit who just went by? I met her on the train. She begged me to wear this rose in my coat. She said that if you should ask me for a dinner, to tell you she’s waiting for you in that big restaurant across the street. She said it was some kind of a test.”

The moral of the story is this: GIRLS, if you will learn to wait patiently and confidently for God to bring a Christlike man into your life, you will not be disappointed. And GUYS, learn to treat women like the PERFECT GENTLEMAN, Jesus Christ. If you do, you will not only be promoted out of “jerk-hood” but you will then be worthy of a beautiful princess of purity who is saving herself just for you.


~ Excerpt from the Book, When God Writes Your Love Story. Author; Eric and Leslie Ludy

God's Best or All The Rest

CHRISTIAN DATING: God's Best or All The Rest?

By: Belinda Elliott

CBN.com Senior Producer

Sure, maybe he's not Prince Charming, but he's a good guy.

I know he loves me, I just wish he’d treat me better sometimes.

Maybe it’s not the best relationship, but what’s the alternative? No one else is asking me out.

What if I can’t find anyone better? At least I’m not alone.

Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? I’ve been there. Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too. I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.

I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. My favorite one by far is Choosing God's Best by Don Raunikar. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage. I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me.

What does that mean?

It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it. I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating.

I do not believe in “soul mates,” necessarily. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you. I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. That will never happen. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the best match for you. I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him.

I have found this to be true in my own life. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. In fact, most of them had many good qualities. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together. But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.

In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s. In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be. Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?

For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy. But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list. I had to ask myself, “Is he really on the same page as me when it comes to my Christian faith?” “If we have children, will it be important to him that they are raised by godly principles and involved in church?” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship.

Another guy was also an okay “match” in many ways. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me. His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me. For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue. When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.

I’d been struggling with making a decision about this particular relationship for at least a year. I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship. It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came. Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. “No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy.

Does it hurt to end a relationship? Of course it does. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.

After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope. “I don’t want to fall in love with anyone else until it is ‘the right one,’” I told God. Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one. I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.

It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband. We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).

However, once I put God in charge of my love life, a funny thing happened. I began to see in Matt several of those “husband material traits” that I had been searching for with other guys. I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there.

Godly, Christian man? Check.
Capable of being the spiritual leader in the relationship? Check.
Sensitive? Caring? Funny? Check, check, check!

As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here. As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. The rest is history. We dated for about 10 months before he proposed.

And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to. With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future. And as I look back on past relationships, I can see why Matt and I are the best match compared to others we each dated.

Don’t get me wrong, you could probably make your current relationship work. I believe that there are any number of people that we each could marry and make it work – and even be happy. But I also believe that we will be happiest in marriage if we allow God to choose our mate for us. That doesn’t mean waiting for God to drop that person into your lap, or waiting for a flashing neon sign to blink over his or her head identifying that person as “the one.” Instead, it means taking each relationship to God and asking, “Where do You want this relationship to go?”

And the next step is just as important, are you truly willing to abide by God’s answer?

If God’s will is for you to be married, then I believe He wants you to have the best marriage possible. You deserve someone who will appreciate you for who God made you to be, encourage you to grow spiritually and embrace all that God has for you, and cherish you as a precious gift from your Heavenly Father. Don’t settle for less than that.

The question I've posed to my friends lately, and the one I would ask of all Christian singles, is this: Are you willing to wait for God’s best or are you simply settling for all the rest?

Paul Newman's Letter To His Wife On Their Wedding Day

“ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”


..... Such a romantic love story and truly one of a kind an assurance of a love so genuine and true will definitely last a lifetime. An inspiration, devotion and a motivation to find not the perfect person but to know there will be a partner which is designed perfectly for each one of us. All I can say is, I salute you Paul Newman for being not a perfect husband but being the best husband you can be for your wife and your family.... ^_^

A Love Story

.....A friend of mine got married.....

......and here's their love story.....

"I believe waiting is training, when we wait... God is going to train us.. he is going to build our character... God will never fail... faithfully wait for God's plan and God's will for your life"

~ Christian Andanar Dionglay

"Mahirap pero masaya mag intay... specially kung hinihintay mo eh ung taong nakalaan para sau... just believe... and trust God for it... and its worth it.... its... worth it..." 

~ Kristine Clemente - Dionglay 

"He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart. No one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end."

~ Ecclesiastes 3:11

❤______S_i_M_p_L_y___A_m_A_Z_i_N_g______❤

____CONGRATULATIONS___

____KRISTINA_❤_CHRISTIAN____

Impact of a Father....

I post this last year on Father's Day and I will post it again...
Because the Impact of a Father is very important in the life of a person...

In the eyes of a child, what he sees, he remembers and will influence him
all through out his life...

I've seen a lot of my friends and families suffered because their fathers either left them, cheated on their mom, or hurt them physically, mentally or emotionally...

My prayers are for every one:

Fathers, Sons and soon to be Fathers....

Please remember....

A letter from God

Just well said God....

~ ...I love you... ~

GPS in La luz Batangas

GPS La Luz Retreat from GPS on Vimeo.

God's Princesses in La luz

~ Perfect weather ~

~ Refreshing ~

~ Renewing ~

I'll Remember

"I'll Remember"

Mmmm, mmmm
Say good-bye to not knowing when
The truth in my whole life began
Say good-bye to not knowing how to cry
You taught me that


And I'll remember the love that you gave me
Now that I'm standing on my own
I'll remember the way that you changed me
I'll remember

Inside I was a child
That could not mend a broken wing
Outside I looked for a way
To teach my heart to sing

[chorus]

I learned to let go of the illusion that we can possess
I learned to let go, I travel in stillness
And I'll remember happiness
I'll remember (I'll remember)
Mmmmm... (I'll remember)
Mmmmm...

[chorus]
(I'll remember)

No I've never been afraid to cry
Now I finally have a reason why
I'll remember (I'll remember)

Hollie

Been watching American Idol for a while...

and of all the songs Hollie had sung....

This is one of my favorite....

Mama

My fondest memory of my Mom was how she took care of me when I get sick... She would cook the best soup... and everything she prepares seems the best food ever... And when I look at her face with much concern and worries... I knew how much she loves me...

I actually even fake getting sick sometimes... So I don't have to go to school and get pampering at home instead... and that only works for my Mom... My dad would kick my butt whenever I fake sickness... because he just know...

But my Mom... she is the best... and I miss her a lot....

I love you, Mama... for me you're the greatest....

This song is for you, Mama:

Those days....

*****....When life hits you....*******

*********.....I got you....***********





............Life goes on................

.........and I'll be alright...........

"I will trust in God's unfailing love for ever and ever"

~ Psalm 52:8 (NIV) 

Dissapointment

....Pardon Me.....

...I am better now in ways...

....But I am still a woman...

...Pardon me....

...Its just one of those days.....

The Invitation

“It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive. It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals, or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide or fade it or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of you fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being a human. It doesn't interest me if the story you're telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore be trustworthy. I want to know if you can see the beauty even when it is not pretty everyday, and if you can source your life from its presence. I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!" It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children. It doesn't interest me who you are, or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back. It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments."

~The Invitation", by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

"Road"

For the longest time, I have questioned myself as to which path should I take? The path I have planned for myself? or the path where God wants me to be? The road is easier on this side of the road. The road is smooth and I can elude all the unwanted stems of the trees where I pass by. It seemed all planned. Although still uncertain of what lies ahead, I can control how I can get there. Or should I take the other side of the road, where it's bumpy on every sides. A promise of not smooth sailing travel but has a lifeline each and every time I needed one. There will be no detour and hanging branches will be a hassle since it always taps on your back. Making you realize you are going on the wrong way. Although the promise is very clear but the journey can't guarantee a safe one.

The time is running out, and I have exhausted my strength to measure the logical way of how to solve my confusion. But one thing I am sure of right now..... I can lift them up to God and in time He will reveal the road I should take and He will be on my side each and every step of the way.

The Scriptures says:

I will lead blind Israel down a new path, guiding them along an unfamiliar way. I will brighten the darkness before them and smooth out the road ahead of them. Yes, I will indeed do these things; I will not forsake them.

~ Isaiah 42:16

Love is the presence of the Lord

♥It's so cute ♥

"There is nothing more precious

than seeing the love of your life beside you,

while you held hands with the Lord"

Steady My Heart

Wish it could be easy

Why is life so messy

Why is pain a part of us

There are days I feel like

Nothing ever goes right

Sometimes it just hurts so much

But You're here

You're real

I know I can trust You

Even when it hurts

Even when it's hard

Even when it all just falls apart

I will run to You

Cause I know that You are

Lover of my soul

Healer of my scars

You steady my heart (2x)

I'm not gonna worry

I know that You got me

Right inside the palm of your hand

Each and every moment

What's good and what gets broken

Happens just the way that You plan

And I will run to You

You're my refuge in Your arms

And I will sing to You

Cause of everything You are

You steady my heart (2x)

"The waiting seasons are made to serve You and worship You and be all I am for You. So when the big moments arrive, I'll be completely ready to be and do what I wouldn't have thought possible, without You."

~ Jael Garcia, (my friend)

As the bible says: "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing." ~ John 15:5

........ I know God that apart from you I can't do anything, on my own I am weak... but so as long you are with me, I have the courage to let go of the things I never thought possible. Even if it hurts but you will steady my heart.

"You Are For Me"

So faithful, so constant and so true

So powerful in all you do

You fill me, You see me

You know my every move

You love for me to sing to You

I know that You are for me,

I know that You are for me

I know that You will never

forsake me in my weakness

And I know that You have come

now even if to write upon my heart

To remind me who You are

So patient, so gracious,

So merciful and true

So wonderful in all you do

You fill me, You see me

You know my every move

You love for me to sing to you

Lord, I know that You are for me,

I know that You are for me

I know that you will never

forsake me in my weakness

And I know that You have come

now even if to write upon my heart

To remind me

Lord, I know that You are for me,

I know that You are for me

I know that You will never

forsake me in my weakness

And I know that You have come

now even if to write upon my heart

To remind me who You are

To remind me

I know that You are for me,

I know that You are for me

I know that You will never

forsake me in my weakness

And I know that you have come

now even if to write upon my heart

To remind me who you are

...... I know that You are for me, Lord... Thank you for reminding me... ^_^

Why Complicate life?

Just wanna share this pic I saw over the net....

It speaks for itself.... ^_^

So true... we love to complicate things, when it just too simple....

When at times circumstances makes it difficult for us,

We just have to communicate with each other.... ^_^

Zac and Taylor

My two favorite peepz on Ellen...

I so love the chemistry here... eye contact maintained.... ^_^

and Taylor brings out the best of Zac Efron...

They are so adorable.... I think they're dating.... ^_^

love... love... love.... love it.... ^_^

The Notebook

My favorite tearjerker movie ever.... T_T

........true love will surpass the test of time...

In God's Perfect Time

"To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under the heavens,

A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pull up what is planted;A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;A time to dance; a time to gather stones together; a tine to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away;A time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;A time to love, and time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

Ecclesiastes 3: 1 - 8

....... God's time is perfect, never too early and never too late. God's will is always the best may not be something we want now, but he will definitely give us what we need in his perfect time. Never loose hope, for God works best when the time is right.

Walk with me....

It's finally here... The new journey begins......

.....Thank you for you have been a part of my life...

.....You have watched me in pain...

.....You have rejoiced in my celebrations in life...

.....And its my joy to share with you all this new journey of my walk in faith....

Come on...... Walk with me.... ^_^

Coming Soon....

The Journey of my life will continue to a new chapter....

A new blog site will be born....

Towards the most important journey of my life....

Please come and join me as I unravel the plans God has laid for me...

I will see you again soon... into a new chapter of my life journey.....

Stay tuned.... be updated.... and be amazed..... ^_^

I am....

As a person....

I am a child... who is still unaware of some battles of life, therefore needs guidance as I walk the uncertainty of it.

I am a woman... who has limitations that often lacks the strength to face the heaviness of life's burden.

On my faith....

I am not perfect.... I have my own flaws and needs God, so I won't be persuaded easily by worldly deeds.

I am a student.... still learning about God and his ways.

I am a seed... needs nourishment by feeding my soul the bread of life (God's word)...

I can be who God's wants me to be.... and I know as I grow to be that person I have to prepare myself to:

*Get hurt, and feel pain....

"The PAIN caused you to REPENT and CHANGE your ways"

~ 2 Corinthians 7:9

*Live for others not just for myself....

"And if your brother be waxen poor, and fallen in decay with you; then you shall relieve him: yes, though he be stranger, or a sojourner; that he may live with you"

~ Leviticus 25:35

*Continue to live in the scriptures...

"Men does not live with bread alone, but in ever word that comes from the mouth of God" ~Matthew 4:4

.......When I finally accepted God to be my savior, I no longer live by the works of the world but will serve to live for God.....

I am not perfect, and I know to be successful in my journey I can not do in on my own... but through Christ alone.... I would no longer boast about worldly deeds but I'll be bold in sharing God's words....

"La Suite de las Calles Vacias"

There's something about the music and how this video was made enchanted me....

♥ Love the music....

♥ Love the streets...

♥ Love the intensity of the video....

Take me to Spain..... ^_^

Guard our heart

“Everything that God allows in the life of a believer has been divinely designed. There are no mistakes in the plan that was made for you long before the foundation of the earth. Whatever is happening in your life that doesn’t seem right or fair has been allowed for a distinct purpose. It is never easy to suffer through our painful trials, but it is the working of our faith that gives us endurance to stay in the race and not give up.”
~ Marianne Lordi

To walk in faith is a struggle... I remember Pastor Joey said to understand how bad you were as a person is to try to be a good one... Our journey to heaven is indeed a struggle but always remember not to give up. Never let envy, hate, jealousy, sorrow control your heart for its like an elephant's ant that will eat the very goodness of your soul... been there and its not a pleasant experience for me and my loved one... and just had the urges to share this to you so you will know it too... "Above all else guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life" ~ Proverbs 4:23

Thriving Vs. Striving

(Adaptation from Thriving: Pstr Jun, VCF)

Are you striving or thriving in your life right now?

Are you doing things by your own strength?

Or are you flowing like a stream of life?

Striving ( Surviving) (Dead in the Spirit)

- Doing things by your own strength.

---- Just like a dead tree even when surrounded by life..... inside its empty... its dead in the spirit striving to live on its own and unaware of its life source... God.....

"You are doing things right now that hinder your growth you are dead in the spirit... Because of sin...."

~ Pstr. Jun

Romans 3

God’s Faithfulness

1 What advantage, then, is there in being a Jew, or what value is there in circumcision? 2 Much in every way! First of all, the Jews have been entrusted with the very words of God.

- It says in the scripture that even at times we fail and sin... God has entrusted us with his very words... for Guidance.... his words is the signature of his faithfulness to us...

Romans 6:6

New King James Version (NKJV)

⁶ knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin.

Romans 6:11

New King James Version (NKJV)

¹¹ Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

----- It said that when God has been crucified he took our sin and die with it so "we" will no longer be slaves of sin....

How to know if you are doing God's will?

You are Thriving - (Flowing) (Alive in Christ)

---you are flowing like a tree which lives by its source of life - GOD

~ Pstr. Jun

---- "When you are doing things by your own strength you are striving, but when you are doing God's will you are thriving because God has given you his grace"

" To know that it is God's will you don't even have to exert any effort to get it.... why? because God himself has given it to you without even trying.... because of his love... he has given you his grace....."

Something to look forward to...

"Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't there. You can't see the future, yet you know it will come; you can't see the air, yet you continue to breathe."

~0~ Claire_London ~0~

A New Year.... A New Beginning.... Hello 2012...

Every year few of us make resolution list which at the end of the year...

Some...

......are happy to accomplish it...

Others...

......unsatisfied for not even close to achieving it....

New Year's resolution was never on my list...

I guess because, I was simply one of the many, who get caught up with it...

I value words and intentions of some one I love....

Rather than list of uncertainties....

For me, a promise meant to a person.... is more relevant than a list of resolution I made for myself...

A promise will never be forgotten....

A list will be torn out and trashed...

I may not have the courage to make a resolution list for myself...

But I always keep my promises....

Here's to a new chapter in our lives...

Here's to a new beginning.....